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Family Violence Prevention Program

About Domestic Violence

Domestic violence affects all types of people, regardless of gender, ethnicity, race, sexual orientation, and religion. Every year in the U.S., one in four women, and one in 14 men are seriously hurt or killed by their spouse or partner. If your partner is controlling or abusive, don’t ignore or try to excuse the behavior.

Seek help now and take control of your life.


  • One in four women and one in fourteen men will be victims of intimate violence at some point in their lives.
  • About 5 to 14 percent of women are currently in abusive relationships.
  • Abused women have a 60 percent higher rate of neurological, gynecological, and stress-related problems compared to women who have never been abused.

To get more facts visit the Family Violence Prevention Fund’s website.

What is Domestic Violence?

Domestic violence is a pattern of abusive behavior directed at a former or current partner, spouse, boyfriend, or girlfriend. The abuser uses fear and intimidation to gain power and control over another person. The abuse can take many forms, including physical, emotional, economic, and sexual abuse, and it may involve using children, pets, threats, intimidation, and isolation. Although stress, anger, drugs, and alcohol may increase the risk of abuse, they are not the cause and there is no excuse for it.

Domestic Violence Affects Your Health

Your health involves the whole you, from your body to your mind to your spirit. Domestic violence puts you at risk of serious physical injury. But did you know that the chronic stress of an abuse relationship can also cause physical damage? People experiencing domestic violence often have a wide range of physical damage? People experiencing domestic violence often have a wide range of physical and mental health problems, including depression, anxiety, headaches, abdominal pain, and chronic pain.

What Hurts You Hurts Your Children

Children are hurt when they see someone yell, push, or hit a parent. They may feel scared and ashamed, or even think that they caused the problem.

These children can grow up learning that it’s okay to let other people hurt them. Children who see one parent physically hurt or threatened by the other are more likely to be in abusive relationships when they grow up, either as victims or perpetrators.

Domestic violence affect all children – even infants and toddlers. Children who live in homes where domestic violence occurs are more likely to experience depression, anxiety, school and/or behavior problems, difficulty sleeping, or chronic health problems.

Why Does Someone Stay in an Abusive Relationship?

Changing or ending any relationship is a difficult process, and it can be even harder when the relationship is abusive. Verbal and emotional abuse, which often go along with violence, chip away at self-esteem and leave a person more likely to believe someone who tells them they don’t have value. This can lead to feelings of being trapped. Practical concerns such as custody, finances, or immigration can also make it difficult to leave.

Printable information

Everyone Deserves a Safe Relationship (NCal) English |
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Are you being hurt by someone you love? (SCal) English |
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Relationships Affect Your Health English
Relationships, Sexual Safety and Birth Control English
Violence at home affects your children English |
Are You and Your Baby Safe? English |
Loving parents, loving kids: Creating Futures without Violence English